Many people have this misconception that when a woman is pregnant it’s the happiest time in her life. When in reality it can actually be extremely stressful, especially if you don’t have support. Hormonally you’re unbalanced, dealing with new pressures, more responsibilities and listening to the opinions of all those that believe they know what you’re going through. What I’ve learned through pregnancy is that not one woman’s experience is the same as the other. So, listening to other women’s horror stories should never be taken into account. Your baby and your pregnancy is your own. If you can’t separate the two you’ll find yourself comparing your pregnancy and setting these ridiculous standards for yourself. I’m now eight months along and I’ve heard it all. I politely nod and smile when family members, friends and strangers on the street share their thoughts on being pregnant. I understand it’s their way of showing they care, but it doesn’t help. I’ve gotten maybe one or two questions asking, how are you feeling about your pregnancy? It’s so rare to hear that whenever someone did ask me I’d be stumped. I’d respond, “Wait, you don’t want to tell me how I should be feeling?”

Most of what I’m sharing in this post is me venting and figuring out a healthy way to express my emotions. Do I have the urge to yell out, LEAVE ME ALONE?! Yes, but thankfully I know to save my breath. My intent is not to discourage anyone or say it’s all exhausting, but it has its ups and downs like every thing else in life. It’s a very vulnerable time in a woman’s life. You’re a working vessel for this amazing little human being. You’re responsible for he or she’s well-being. You have to take good care of your body, spirit and mind. You realize that you can never be selfish again. Most importantly, you must always remember this baby didn’t ask to be brought into this world and any issues you have you should deal with them. This journey of bringing a life into the world forces you to self reflect. This way you’re not transferring your own fears or repeating the cycle with your baby. The best attitude to have is to be honest with yourself. Try not to let negative thoughts linger in your heart and give yourself a break. My mantra for today is, just breathe in with the good and out with the bad.

Grateful I have my blog as an outlet to share my experiences and hopefully inspire others. Paz Alexandra